My last blog was highlighting the 6-month marker count down and so I decided to start this blog on that 5month marker, however we have somehow seen the 4month just pass by and I’m only just posting this.
We are now entering the summer season, and the weather is currently displaying that perfect English indecisive summer. We've seen a change from shorts to wellies in the space of five days. To me summer also represents time and how it is now ticking away rather quickly. Our wedding is taking place in late September and to me that represents the end of summer and the beginning of Autumn, new season new beginnings.
From the delays in posting my blogs I've realised that we also seem to have skipped the entire season of Spring.
Spring allowed us to make great progress with wedding arrangements and I'm really happy to report that I'm feeling extremely calm now that our 'important bits' are sorted. We still have details to iron out and now have sufficient time to enjoy the process of adding finishing touches.
Throughout the process of planning the wedding I've mentioned previously that finding Bridesmaid dresses were challenging, however I've found a new stressful knotch to add to my belt and that is the Invitations. I won't go in to detail but making sure you've got your list, worked out where everyone is going to sit, and the capacity for the evening reception is exhausting.
These are certainly just a couple of issues that have played on my mind but nothing to split hairs over. In the day I'm fine and too busy with work to be able to worry - the evening however, is another matter for some reason that's when the nightmare demons descend.
I am being extremely over dramatic here as I've only had 4 wedding nightmares, but to me even 1 is too many, how pathetic! It would seem that the Bridezilla that we often all joke about seems to be living in my subconscious and she's not my favourite person. I have always had very vivid dreams and many times I have woken up pretty sure that the mystical nighttime world was in fact my reality. When I find myself waking from a bad dream I'm sure I am like most people, maybe a bit of yelping, occasionally trying to throw a punch or in other circumstances sobbing and not really too sure why. That sense of waking though and being able to breathe that sigh of relief leaves you lying in the dark feeling rather embarassed.
These nightmares have been staggered throughout this year. Though pretty ridiculous, at the time you tend to stress. So far those that I have come across have included, not having time to make my wedding nail appointment, I've arrived to the wedding on the wrong date with no one there, I've forgotten to book a hairdresser and I've had the wrong wedding dress delivered. Notice these all seem to be bride related!!
Each of these night time unpleasantries have woken me up in cold sweats almost in tears, which is strange because all are very improbable and I wouldn't really care that much if I didn't get time to get my nails done. But this does make me ask the question why is the subconscious so powerful? What part of my daytime brain has flagged this up with my dozed state to make sure I acknowledge these issues?
I would love to hear from other budding brides to see if this happens to them. When I did a bit of research 1 in 2 adults are said to not grow out of having nightmares. Bad dreams happen when we enter that deeper stage of sleep known as rapid eye movement (REM), which is why they can often be harder to wake up from. According to BridalGuide.com they already have an entire feature on PreWedding Nightmares and Number 1. The Wedding Day Arrives, and No One is Ready pretty much covers a few of mine. I'm glad I’m not the only one.
Am I overreacting - Yes, I know the general theme of these nightmares are no big deal, no one dies - however, I classify a nightmare as a thought that makes you upset, feeling unsettled, or generally stressed out. We don't go to sleep to stress!
I have clearly had these bad dreams because there is a part of me that wanted all bits for the wedding sorted like yesterday. I don't eat cheese before bed and I don't watch horror movies so in terms of remedies there is not much I can do, however I’m fortunate enough to have a circuit of people ready and willing to help maybe I just need to use them a little bit more.
So I guess my point to all those who know someone getting married soon is to just check in with them. Asking how's things going? The answer will always be fine, or busy. Try to be more specific, "Did you get your table centre pieces sorted" they may just turn around and need a bit more help than you think.
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